My 15 year old son has been downloading porn

"My 15 year old son has again been downloading porn. Bark alerted me so I was able to step in quickly. I am at work. He is at home. Two quick questions.

  1. Bark keeps alerting me that his youtube account has been disconnected from Bark. Is this something that can just happen, or is he doing it somehow?
  2. What do I do about this video porn thing? We have had several conversations about how porn hurts his mind and body and that watching porn is the #1 cause of Erectile Dysfunction. Also talked about the people in porn being victims of sex trafficking and more. Have taken his phone away etc. I’d love to know if anyone has had success with this issue. Some of his friends parents say its no big deal and its the playboy magazines of this generation and I should just get over it. Your thoughts?"

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" I am a therapist, but even if I weren’t, I’d chime in here. Exploring natural urges is one thing… developing adolescents WILL find a way to masturbate, if only to images in their heads. As parents, we are fools if we think providing unfettered access to Internet porn (and even Internet in general, to younger children) isn’t harmful. Brain science (MRI) shows that the same pleasure-centers light up in the porn user’s brain, as those of a substance abuser’s.

Here’s a great site with more info:

https://fightthenewdrug.org/"

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I think you are doing a great job of discussing the issue openly with him. I agree with you, this is not just something you should “get over.” When we were kids I don’t know a single parent or family who just threw a bunch of porno magazines in a teens room and said, “here, have it.” That is what the internet does. It gives them access to everything. I’m grateful to Bark for allowing us to monitor this. My 14 year old son has been told that if he is flagged for any porn that his phone will immediately be deactivated and service cancelled. It is not allowed in our house. We have also stopped allowing “sleep overs” at homes of other boys since I don’t know what they are monitoring there. I used to be fine with him sleeping at friends houses but since puberty…not anymore. My husband has discussed with him that masturbation is ok and natural…but that…sorry…he’ll have to use his imagination!! Hang in there! :slight_smile:

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Ok. 1. Porn doesn’t cause erectile dysfunction.The best research shows no cause-and-effect relationship between porn watching, per se, and ED. . The study that does is a anti porn group- so there is obviously confirmation bias. 2. LOOK - Your kid is 15, his testosterone is in overdrive and will be… Well for as long as he is a man. Even if you could take away porn - don’t be surprised if you find a catalog open to the bra section lol. 3. He doesn’t want to hear this from his MOM you are the LAST person he wants to talk about sex with. His dad or other man mentor needs to talk to him. You will just make it uncomfortable. You cant stop puberty - he’s gonna take longer showers lol. If you feel pornography is wrong ( sorry) but have a male adult talk to him

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