My husband and I have differing opinions on what is acceptable for our 13yo. I am stepmom and came into the picture several years ago when the rules (or lack thereof) were already in place. No restrictions on screen time, content, or having the phone in the bedroom. Zero parental controls other than, if I ask for the phone hand it to me now. There was already exposure to shows and movies that I believe were not appropriate for an 8yo.
The initial purpose of the phone was to keep in contact when child was at birth mother’s home, but evolved into everyday continuous use. There was no social media use at the time for FB, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. There was unrestricted access to internet, gaming, messaging, facetime etc.
I expressed my concern and while with me, I enforced more control but have never been fully supported by my husband and he believed in his “good kid” and said the exposure to shows had already happened. As step-mom, there is only so much I could do.
However, our preschooler is wanting to do everything older sibling does and can be exposed to things I need to provide protection from. The foundation was already laid with hubby that the rules were going to be different for the younger one.
With an impressionable 13yo and preschooler I am feeling desperate to control more content and use. I’ve tried Norton Family and IOS controls on the phone, but birth-mom and dad will bypass or ask me to change them so there is more freedom.
Any ideas, articles, studies I can use to help hubby understand my concerns and maybe even allow me to put some more restrictions in place? i.e. no phone in the bedroom, screen time limits, changing his apple account back to a child from adult.
Thank you for any constructive assistance.