My 15 year old son had a rough year last year. He made some horrificly poor choices that could have had lifelong effects but thankfully didn’t get him in any trouble outside of the home. I’m trying my hardest to realize that he’ll be 16 soon and then 17 and then 18 and he’ll be off to college. I spent all of the past several months spot checking and doing Bark uploads and he’s been doing fairly well. He’s taken his conversations to DMs in Discord or Instagram, so I can’t really monitor anything that he doesn’t screen shot. (and when he does stupid stuff, he ALWAYS screen shots for his own record of evidence, so yay for that!) What I have seen hasn’t been bad and I’m starting to feel like the mom who’s listening in on 1980s phone conversations with a glass pressed to the door.
He really wants Snapchat and I keep shutting him down. Instagram has so many of the same features and I really can’t come up with a good reason to restrict him from it. What am I missing? If it’s access to porn, that’s a lost cause as long as the internet exists.
Thoughts? He’s a good kid, we’ve made some changes to his prescriptions that I think are really helping and I want to trust him and have a good relationship with him. Is it time to let go a little?