Am I crazy for not letting my 10 year old have Snapchat?

As a middle school counselor who has had to help kids sixth through eighth grade navigate and manage the consequences of Snapchat (sending nudes, pornographic videos, threats, etc), you are doing the right thing by not allowing your child to have Snapchat. My sixth grader knows to not even ask. Adults can’t even appropriately use most social media, so why are we expecting our children with developing brains to be mature enough to handle it? I often find that it’s the parents who don’t monitor or don’t expect their kids to do something like that who have kids guilty of sending things, saying things, and requesting things that get them into trouble.

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My daughter used to have the iPhone and the snapchat. And then a whole bunch of things unfolded - long story short, she is 14 soon to be 15. No longer has a phone, access to internet without supervision and no social media PERIOD. And the “best friend” we thought was a good influence turned out not to be so she’s no longer allowed to associate herself with her. Sorry not sorry, we are out child’s advocates. My house my rules. I do not think your crazy at all, go with your gut and stick to your guns mom :heartpulse:

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Yes yes yes. My daughter is 14…same thing!! Plus it can’t be monitored by a 3rd party like Bark. The only way I find anything is to take her phone without warming and open her snaps. I despise this app. And I can block her installing it on her phone. But that won’t stop her from signing on on a friends phone. Smh

I am a pretty lient mom I like to think however, I explainsd to my son when I finally got him a smart phone vs trac phone. That he could have youtube and games etc but was not allowed to have social media accounts , and I explained why, even up to 18 I dont feel kids are ready yes it can be fun, but kids are mean and behind social media they are braver to be meaner, kids also socialize less in person, I know friends share jokes and show him there pages but since he never had one he has seen first hand all the drama it comes with having them, he 14 now and says he bot bothered in the least that he dosnt have one , I have a good kid but he is also a kid so I feel its up to every parent but each child is different. Good luck

Hi Dara, first off your gut feeling is definitely on point​:heavy_check_mark: I am a YouTuber, blogger and social media influencer. I have a very unique perspective on this because unlike many YouTubers and social media influencers in this day I am 30 and grew up in the age of playing outside and not being subjected to all of the sexualization, ads and pressure to look a certain way, have a certain opinion, etc that social media can expose you to. With that being said, I have a fairly big following and my kids who are 10 and 9 have only known me as YouTuber mom so they are very familiar with what I do and they are also aware of the dark side of what I do and the people who come in contact with me, etc. Obviously I only share age appropriate information with them. Because I have this perspective I can honestly say children should not in any fashion have social media. It is not designed for children. Even though I make content that is family friendly, there are many others that do not. I see the impact that YouTube and Instagram has on these young children when I read their comments, or when they message me personally to ask me about adult things instead of their parents. I think you’re absolutely making the right decision by not allowing your daughter to have Snapchat. As far as the friends, I will say this, my daughter (age 10) has many friends and almost all of them have phones, however because of what I am teaching her at home and because she does have this insight to behind the scenes of social media because of her mother’s job, she will often remind her friends to stay off certain apps and explain to them why she doesn’t have a social media or SnapChat. There are kids in this world that do not have phones at this age however in my experience they are going to be very hard to find them and instead of fighting it, I would really try to educate your child on why it’s so important not to have social media and Snapchat right now at this age. There are awesome things about social media, but those things are things you don’t really want/need until you are an adult. For example contacting family that is far away. If your child wants to speak to Grandma then they can totally do that under your supervision, with your Snapchat video, they do not need to have their own Snapchat. I hope this helps and if anyone has any questions, I do get quite a lot from my friends because I do work in this industry, please feel free to ask :blush:

I told my 11 year old last Fall that SnapChat is out of the question as long as he lives in my house. He brought it up again and I threatened to take away his iPhone.

The app was literally started to allow college students to send provocative pictures knowing they’ll delete themselves. I’m a tech savvy Dad with experience in Social Media and SnapChat literally has zero perks for kids, except for them being able to hide their discussions, or if they’re teens, send pictures of their privates. Adult film stars have also moved their business to SnapChat since Facebook and Instagram don’t allow that type of content. If he wants to msg with his friends then he has text messaging.

No social media she is too young!

Snapchat is DANGEROUS for everyone! Pictures “go away” that we as parents may not see but others can capture them with a acreenshot undetected! I was told this by an investigator who showed me. Also a simple swipe and porn is readily available! As well as with Instagram inappropriate pictures are easily accessible! My teen boys do not have Snapchat and won’t as long as they are in my house!

YOU are the expert on your child - who cares what society thinks!

Not at all.
I really thought I raised my child good and I could trust him. I was a single parent for a lot of years and my son had his first phone at age 7. Now that he is 15. Like I said before, I thought I could trust him until I opened his snap chat. There was some conversations that did not delete and that is how everything started. I checked his phone constantly and randomly. That day this conversation did not make any sense. And i started digging. I felt soooo disappointed after I found out what my son was doing. He was sharing nude pictures with some girls and they were sharing videos. I went into their accounts and there is a place called " for my eyes only" … they there were pictures of them and videos. I went crazy on my son. The following day the dad of one of those girls contacted me. That was the most embarrasing day of my entire life. I did not raised my child that way. He sent me screenshot of my sons conversation with his daughter. I do believe that he never went to the principal or filed charges against my son because she admitted to my son she had sent nudes to another boy.
At this point I cant trust him right now. We are working together to get thru this.
So, no. Snap chat should be banned. This app is super dangerous.

Imo 10 is not the Appropriate age for snap chat or any kind of social media. My daughter is 15 and we still do not let her have snap chat.

I don’t think it’s appropriate…I just took my daughter’s snapchat off her phone after watching how children can get drugs through snapchat.

No!! Not crazy, you are a good parent. My daughter is 10 and I don’t allow any social media. She can cry me a river about all her friends who have TikTok and Snapchat and YouTube… Don’t care… do not give in!!!

Please use Screentime and YOU control what she is able to download. YOU delete the app and tell her when you ask for her phone she will give it to you. I’m sure you may have told her that the cell phone is a privilege NOT a right. YOU are the parent, SHE is the child. If you have iPhones Screentime is one of THE BEST tools to have to control when she can have time on her phone, what she can have on her phone and for how long YOU designate! The other BEST TOOLS to use is YOU and Bark. Abstinence from phone at YOUR discretion is #1, then Screentime then Bark ( in my opinion of course). Will there be drama? Of course however I would rather have that type of drama between my kid than her having drama with peers, strangers and without you even knowing that it exist! Thats the worse kind ever! Stay strong , we fellow parents have your back! God bless you and your family!!!

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Right it’s like there is no safe social media for our pre-teens and teens

Im having the same issues with my daughter, I have found some older men on snap chat trying to meet up with her,Snap chat has a lot of predators on this app and is definitely not for young girls

Don’t let your child have it. I made the mistake and am now having to pick up the pieces. It was fine. Until she started getting requests and sexual pictures. I have been trying to do damage control ever since. My child now has no phone. When she does get it back, I have told her she will have no interest access at all. And a very limited game selection that will also not be internet connected.

My oldest is 13 and still has no social media-